Approach me as you would a cat

Approach me as you would a cat. One you don’t know but sometimes glimpse at twilight on your way home.

Don’t get too close too soon. You might scare me off without meaning to.

Slow down. Get down on my level. Speak to me softly. Make me feel safe.

Let me make the first move. And the second.

Let me smell your fingertips. Tell me who you are and where you’ve been and what you’ve done.

Let me cozy up to you, brushing your leg and nuzzling your open hand before you touch me gently, tentatively. Right there behind my ear.

I like the feel of your hands on me. Keep going, but pay attention to where and how you touch. I’m still wary, and some places are off limits. And even though I don’t want to, I might hurt you to keep you from crossing my boundaries. To keep you from hurting me.

But if you’re patient, maybe I’ll purr for you. A sign of my languid contentment.

Maybe I’ll feel safe enough to let my guard down, show you my belly, expose my weak spots.

Maybe I’ll want to follow you home and curl up into the inviting, hollow curve of your body. The solid shelter of you.

And if you let me in, maybe I’ll want to stay. I won’t be the perfect companion. I’ll wake you up when it’s still dark out—playful, insistent, hungry. I’ll leave my smell on your sheets and my hair on your pillow, bite marks and scratches when you provoke me, a mess when I’m sick or stressed or angry.

But I’ll be there when you’re feeling lost or lonely. And I’ll kill the spiders for you.




  1. Ashley · · Reply

    This is beautiful. I adore the metaphor, it’s so perfect!

    1. Thanks, Ashley! Inspired in equal parts by Lula and an encounter with a Frenchman.

  2. I absolutely love this! Best metaphor!

    1. Thank you!

  3. I am not a cat person (yet) but loved this!

    1. Glad you enjoyed it!

  4. Beautiful piece.. Love it. 😀

    1. Thank you! I had a lot of fun writing it.

      1. Meow……… LOL

  5. Reblogged this on ammwanake.

  6. Sounds like me.

  7. This is me too. Hehehe 😊

  8. Reblogged this on theirvoicessay and commented:
    Interesting perspective…… I like!

    1. Thanks!

  9. raemorspeaks · · Reply

    Reblogged this on ISpeak and commented:
    This encapsulates what I am currently experiencing

  10. purplerose18 · · Reply

    Reblogged this on The Purple Rose Blog and commented:
    This is a lovely comparison of a shy personality of an introverted girl, who, although strives to keep her distance out of fear, still wants to be loved.

  11. purplerose18 · · Reply

    Just reblogged this! Being a cat person and a mostly introverted person, I completely identify with a cat’s approach to people. It’s hard to familiarize with someone, but once I’m comfortable I snuggle a bit too close…Beautiful and well-written Cara.

    1. Thank you! I’m glad you liked it. I’m (obviously) cat-like, too–I crave company and intimacy, but need to get there slowly and on my terms and without feeling pressured.

  12. Beautiful. Lovely metaphor 🙂

    1. Thank you.

  13. A lovely read!!

    1. Thank you!

  14. Wandering_eye · · Reply

    So nicely put. It is rare these days to actually read these tiny details to which most men are oblivious. This is almost like poetry, you should write a book, I’ll definitely buy

    1. Thank you for your comment. A book is a far-off goal right now, but someday it’ll be closer. I’ll keep you posted 😉

  15. I absolutely loved it! Amazing 🙂

    1. Thanks!

  16. Reblogged this on The Minute Muse and commented:
    Perfectly described!

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